The God Established Home
At our church, we recently began a series called God Established. Tonight was a special night for women as our ministers’ wives led us in conversations about our roles in our God-Established homes. Last week was “Man Church” for men, but tonight was “Conversations” for women only. There were a few men there, including my husband, who ran the sound and lighting systems, but the worship service was especially for us ladies. Since we value equipping daughters for Godly womanhood, we were asked to bring our daughters along. Since my daughters are now 17 and 20, I was excited for them to attend this event with me. I’m so happy that I no longer need to leave my kids at home or secure a sitter so that I can attend a lady’s event at church. They are ladies now who can go with me. They are my adult daughters. They are now Godly women who will someday be Godly wives and they were just as eager to attend “Conversations” as I was. My husband and I have enjoyed the blessing of equipping one son for Godly manhood and now two daughters for Godly womanhood.
Equipping Daughters for Godly Womanhood
With my two daughters sitting right beside me, we talked about our insecurities as wives and mothers and about how we don’t always have it all together. We discussed how we compare ourselves to others . . . because they always DO seem to have it all together . . . but they don’t because nobody does.
With my two daughters sitting right beside me, we talked about marriage and our roles within our homes. We discussed how the world’s definition of “submissive” is distorted, but God’s design for the family actually elevates the value of the woman in the home. Our roles as a submissive wives do not devalue us. In God’s eyes, we are of equal value as our husbands. Our insight, wisdom, and opinions are valuable but God holds our husbands accountable for decisions made in God-established homes. We must take our roles as help-mates seriously so that our husbands can lead our homes effectively and make the right decisions for our families.
With my two daughters right beside me, we discussed our roles as mothers. Our pastors’ wives shared some resources they use for equipping their sons for Godly manhood and their daughters for Godly womanhood. We talked about the value of prayer in raising our children and the importance of setting a Godly example for our kids. It is important that our children see us as the real women that we are. They need to see us serve our families, love our husbands, love them, and love our God. They need to see how we handle the mistakes we make and they need to see and hear us apologize when we make those mistakes. We should take this opportunity to teach our children that we are not perfect, but we makes mistakes. This is why we need Jesus.
With my two daughters right beside me, tonight was a time for us to just be real with one another, to realize we aren’t perfect. We don’t always have it all together, but we serve a perfect God who meets us in all our imperfections and fills in all the gaps. We also have one another. We are daughters of the King, sisters in Christ, who can hold one another accountable in friendship and love – and a friend in Jesus is a valuable gift.
As I listened to these conversations, I felt blessed to be in such good company and even more blessed that my adult daughters were learning more about their future roles as wives and mothers.
We discussed something else too – women who are not yet called into the ministry of being a wife or mother. Not all women are called to be wives. Not all women are called to be moms, but all women are called. All women are valuable and God has a special purpose for each one.
The best resource we have for equipping women for Godly womanhood is the Bible. We discussed the value of spending quiet time alone in the word of God each day. The more time we spend with God, the more intimately we know Him. The more intimately we know Him, the better we know His plan for our lives. When we know more about the plan He has for our lives, we make wiser decisions. We are more secure in our roles in our homes, in our workplaces . . . in our mission fields.
Perhaps you are reading this and you don’t know the Lord, let alone His plan for your life. You can learn more about becoming a Christian here. Then, you need to find a local body of believers, a church family, where you can grow in Christ, serve Him, and fulfill His plan for you.
You’ll find a good selection of Bibles here.
Here are several other resources for equipping our daughters for Godly womanhood.